In every relationship, we are constantly trying to sculpt the other person in the way we have imagined them to be. Even without being aware of it, we continuously try to control and change and possess the other. To try to possess a living person is the ultimate disrespect you can show them! It means we are trying to convert a person into property. We degrade energy into matter. We carry an image of our ideal person inside our heads, and try to mold the other person in the same image! If we can only drop the images inside us we will find endless possibilities for enjoying the relationship. A real relationship can never happen as long as you have fantasies. Even if you stay for twenty-four hours in the same house with the other person, you don’t look into their eyes! Because you live with fantasy and not reality. You don’t actually live with the real person. When you learn to drop your fantasy and imaginations about others, you will experience the real relationship blossoming!