The first point of contact where any external information gets integrated into you as an understanding or cognition, as part of you, which is your default cognition, means your usual way of understanding…..
See, your regular way of understanding, cognizing always tells you “Life should not be this way”. Please understand, it’s like when you order a pizza, who receives it before bringing it to your table is very important. If some worker who has come to clean your drainage system, cleaning your septic tank, if he receives with his bare hands and brings it to your table, will you be able to eat? So, unfortunately, whenever life comes to your door, you receive it with a dirty hand of “Life should not be this way”. And, after that, whatever you do – you practice spiritual truths, teachings to change this cognition – whatever you do, it will only be a struggle. Listen, after your worker who is cleaning the drainage, with his bare hands if he handles the pizza, brings it to your table and serves, after that how much ever you clean the pizza, will you be able to eat it?
Understand, the first touch life receives from you, you give to life, is very important. If the first touch is transformed, after that whatever happens will be Completion. If the first touch is dirty – the resistance “Life should not be this way” – then whatever you do, whatever you do, please listen, whatever you do will only be a struggle, struggling practice, struggling spiritual practice.
So, all I am trying to tell you is, drop handling life, stop handling life with dirty hands. Drop this pattern of handling life with dirty hands. Understand, once you handle the food with dirty hands, how much ever you wash it, it will only be struggling to clean, you will never be able to eat it again.
When your default cognition transforms from “This is not!” to “This is it! Now what?”, then you move to the space of “no resistance”.
Listen, I am not saying accept. For example, if you are afraid of poverty, somebody steals all your wealth, I am not saying accept. No! All I am trying to tell you is, don’t start handling that information with “It should not be this way!” No! “This is it! Now what?” How many of you are understanding the difference?
Start, then you will understand how it directly helps you! Start, then you will understand! This “no resistance” but does not mean “acceptance”. “No resistance” does not mean “acceptance”, because acceptance will always be a rejected theology if you logically analyze it. If you logically try to accept, and try, try, try, finally your inner space will only reject that theology, that theory. Acceptance is the most non-accepted theory! It is not practically possible. It is not practically possible!
The first point of contact where any external information gets integrated into your default cognition….. For example, I‘ll give you one example. “Smoking is injurious to health.” This is one information. “Fire burns you.” This is another one information. This “Fire burns you”; the moment you experience once, immediately that becomes your default cognition. After that, anywhere you see fire, you move out, you keep your body out. So now, “The fire burns you” has become default cognition. But “Smoking is injurious to health”, after knowing this, after smoking once and coughing, or after smoking once and doctor says it is not good for your health, if it does not become your default cognition, what does it mean? It means you are struggling with that truth, with that information. How many of you are able to cognize what I am saying? This example will give you the understanding how the default cognitions are formed, how the information is integrated into you, how the information is digested, assimilated, made part of you.
Anyhow, now understand – the concept I am trying to explain through this example is, don’t put people in the wrong queue; don’t put information in the wrong queue; don’t put life in the wrong side. Let life be defending you, not prosecuting you! Please understand, put life in the right side. If you start the first introduction itself with life, if you start with the words “It should not be this way!”, already life becomes the Prosecution, and you are on the side of the Defense. Understand, do not start with the idea “Life should not be this way”. Start with the idea, “This is life! Now what?” Understand? “This is life! Now what?” Don’t start with the idea “Life should not be this way!” The moment you start with the idea “Life should not be this way!” you already put life as the Prosecution and you are on the side of the Defense.
I tell you, many times, the first word you utter to a person decides your relationship with that person, am I right, because nobody in the world has the patience to listen to your second word. They pass judgment listening to your first word. How many of you understand this? Life also passes judgment based on the first word you utter towards it. The first word you utter towards life should not be “This should not be life!” Understand, the first word you utter towards life should be “This is it! Now what do I want to do about it?” When life comes in front of you, your first response should be shaking the hands, not closing the hands, preparing a fist. The moment you say “Life should not be this way!”, you have already closed your hands into a tight fist.
Understand, when life happens to you, the first word should be “This is it! Now what do I want to do about it? Do I want to accept it and move on? Do I want to reject it and move on? Or do I change it the way I want?” You will have all these three options only when you start with the decision “This is it!” The moment you start with the decision “This way life should not be!”, then all three choices are not there for you!
Usually, your default cognition tells you that life should not be this way and, after you apply different, different, different theories, spiritual practices and try to change this cognition, it will all be nothing but the dirty pizza being washed. You can understand what I am saying. How much ever you wash the pizza, along with the dirt the topping also will go away. Then what are you going to eat? Just the bread.