How do we overcome this need for power within our souls, within our body, within our lives?


Mohandas Pai: Swamiji, you know all of us want power in our lives, we want control, we want wealth, we want people to listen to us and this need for power in all human beings, is the root cause of much conflict, because this power is exhilarating, how do we overcome this need for power within our souls, within our body, within our lives?

Sri Nithyananda Swamiji: See first, when we are not able to handle our self, control our self, when we are not able to come to relationship with our self, we are trying to do this to others. For example, when you are not able to handle….when we are not able to handle our self  if we are trying to behave like giving up on us, we will give up on the society. If we are trying to behave like controlling us, we will control the society. How we feel with our self, the same way only we will feel with the world. If somebody is trying to control others and feel, controlling others give them joy, there is a deep vacuum in them that they are not able to control themselves. So they are struggling in controlling them selves. When we are struggling to control our self, we will also be struggling to control the world. 

If we come to completion with ourselves knowing clearly, ‘this all can be controlled’. For example my eating habit, sleeping habit, my digestion, all this can be controlled but my blood circulation, my breathing, all this cannot be controlled, that is actually good for me. When we know, ‘I myself put something in automatic gear, for my own benefit’, so this ‘what I put in automatic gear is not binding me, it is actually some of the responsibilities off from me, which I decided’. For example, our breathing pattern, our blood circulation, we put all of them into automatic, by us, it is our decision, we put them into automatic so that we can attend to something else.

End of the day, coming to the Source of everything, Context, and understanding everything, we are responsible, makes thousands of things clear.

When we start getting complete with our self, we will manifest the same completion with others. When we are not able to control our self, we will try to control us and control others. When we are not able to control our self and we give up on us, we will give up on us and give up on others.

Everything, the way we behave whether in a traffic signal or in our career or in our relationship, everything finally boils down to – ‘how we cognize us, how we behave with ourselves’. Our idea about us is the Source from which all this manifest. Even the need for the Power, is not always going to lead to a completion space or happiness space, we know!

Mohandas Pai: we know..

Swamiji: We know!

Mohandas Pai: Yes..we know…

Swamiji: But still!

Mohandas Pai: we do it…we still we do it…

Swamiji: I should say it’s a blind spot.

Mohandas Pai: blind spot…

Swamiji: We know our goal is not going to make us feel the way we want. See we want certain feeling at the end of the goal and we want something as the goal, even though we know this feeling and that goal is not going to come together, sometimes we just start travelling….towards any one direction. So I should say, it is more or less our own blind spots based on our blind spots inside us.

Mohandas Pai: Inside us but Swamiji, we live in a society, now we have relationships. We are children of a parent, we got friends, we marry, we have spouse’s, we have children, we have colleagues, we have Gurus. Now this need to find peace within. How does it correlate with the need to have relationships, can you let relationships dominate your life, how should two people deal with each other when they live together, they are part of a family?

Swamiji: With whoever we live, if we are remembering somebody or seeing somebody more than thrice a day, we are responsible for how they feel about us.

Mohandas Pai: we are responsible..

Swamiji: Yes! Sure, because they are part of us. See, when you cognize everything, for example, if you cognize your peace, can you exclude your spouse and kids and cognize your peace?

Mohandas Pai: No…

Swamiji: If you cognize your happiness, can you exclude them and cognize your happiness?

Mohandas Pai: No…

Swamiji: So if somebody is part of your cognition, they are part of you.

Mohandas Pai: We are all together…

Swamiji: They are part of you…us!

Mohandas Pai: They are part of us

Swamiji: Us! Whoever is part of you, when you cognize your fears, can you exclude them and calculate your fears? No. Something happens to them is also your fear.

Mohandas Pai: Yes…

Swamiji: When you cognize about your joy, can you exclude them and cognize?

Mohandas Pai: No…

Swamiji: So, whoever is part of your fear, your joy, your pleasure, your pain, everything happening to you, is part of you, so how you feel with them, how you feel about them, how they feel about you, for that you are responsible. Unfortunately, we always think,”Why should I be responsible for what they think about me?”

Mohandas Pai: Yes…

Swamiji: Which is see…you don’t need to be responsible for the person who goes in the street, passerby. How he feels about you, you are not responsible. You don’t need to be.

Mohandas Pai: Yes

Swamiji: Because he is not part of your life.

Mohandas Pai: Yes…

Swamiji: But everyone who is part of your life, now all titles you’ve described: spouse, son, father, daughter, Guru, all these relationships are not passerby people, people who walk in the street. They are part of your very cognition. In the cognition if they are part, how can you not be responsible for how they hold you or perceive you? The biggest blind spot all of us have is whoever is part of our thinking system….see for example when you visualize what is your joy – whoever is part of them, part of that visualization, when you visualize what is your fear – whoever is part of that visualization, when you visualize what is your happiness – whoever is part of that visualization – we are not even taking responsibility for what they think about us or how they hold us or how they perceive us!! Taking responsibility for everyone who is part of our cognition, how they feel about us, how they hold us, how they expect us – bringing Completion in that, means

if they are holding us in some way, expecting us to be something – either you make them understand that expectation is not going to become real or if you are very sure you are going it into reality, giving it as a commitment and removing the insecurity from them. This is what I call Completion.

Either you remove that expectation. The way they hold you or you make it as very vocal, oral, clear cut commitment and you stand by it. This removes, I can say 99% of the incompletions.

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About Sri Nithya Sadashivatmananda

Initiated disciple of His Holiness Sri Sri Paramahamsa Nithyananda Swamiji.