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Why do people break up, don’t live happily ?

Mohandas Pai: Swamiji, why is there conflict in families between 2 people. Between spouses, why do people break up, don’t live happily, how to handle conflict and what causes this conflict? Swamiji: Basically, you keep somebody as part of your cognition, but you are not ready to take the responsibility for how they expect you. See…

How do we overcome this need for power within our souls, within our body, within our lives?

Mohandas Pai: Swamiji, you know all of us want power in our lives, we want control, we want wealth, we want people to listen to us and this need for power in all human beings, is the root cause of much conflict, because this power is exhilarating, how do we overcome this need for power within our souls, within our body, within our lives? Sri Nithyananda Swamiji: See first, when we are not able to handle our self, control our self, when we are not able to come to relationship with our self, we are trying to do this to…

Romance with the life, not because it is your other half, because it is you.

Let us enter into the sixth verse.   यस्तु सर्वाणि भूतान्यात्मन्यॆवानुपश्यति । सर्वभूतॆषु चात्मानं ततॊ न विजुगुप्सतॆ ॥ Yasthu Sarvaani Bhoothaani Aathmanyeva Anupashyathi | Sarva Bhootheshu Cha Aathmaanam Thatho Na Vijugupsathe ||  Yes! One who, indeed, lives by seeing as it is the whole Existence existing in the Consciousness, the Self itself, and the Consciousness existing in the whole Existence, by virtue of not seeing oneself as separate from the Consciousness, does not feel violated or hates anything existing. “One who, indeed, lives by seeing as it is the whole Existence, all manifest and un-manifest beings existing in the Consciousness itself, and the Consciousness existing in the whole…

Sometimes it seems like love alone is not enough to have a successful relationship. We seem to have many conflicts with people we love. What else other than love is needed?

I tell you, Completion! Completion with yourself and with others is the most important ingredient of relationship. Love is actually the side-effect of the relationship. Completion is the main ingredient of relationship. Completion with yourself and Completion with others is the main ingredient of relationship. Please understand, ability to see the possibility in you is Completion with yourself, ability to see the possibility in others is Completion with others. So, Completion with yourself and Completion with others is the first ingredient for a successful relationship. Love is side-effect. When I say “Completion”, I mean your ability to look at your…

What makes it so difficult to move on from previous relationships? My past is affecting my ability to love. How can I clear the past and rewrite the relationship the way I want?

Listen! Listen! You need to know, anything which brings you powerlessness, difficulty, you never had that systematically! Please understand, if you had wealth and lost it, you had relationship and lost it, if you had health and lost it, you have not systematically built it; it has happened to you as accident. Anything you consciously build, anything you consciously build, stays with you and makes you more and more powerful. If you feel your earlier relationships are failure, you need to know you did not build that consciously; it happened as an accident. May be just because you were a…

I seem always to attract the same kind of relationships? How do I get out of this pattern? How do I attract the right person into my life?

First thing, you will always attract the same kind of relationships in your life as long as you carry the same pattern. When you get out of the pattern you are carrying, when you complete with all the patterns you are carrying, when you bring yourself to Completion from all the incompletions you are carrying, you will attract the right person into your life. Right person into your life! Till you carry the same pattern, you will attract the same kind of relationships in your life. Please understand, the way you relate, the way you respond, the way you utter…

If you observe deeply you will find out,

If you observe deeply you will find out, if you have incompletion within you that day you will feel I am angry with you. When you have incompletion you will see the reflection on Me, means, if you feel I am angry at you, all you need to do is do completion with you and completion with others. I am not angry with you. If I am angry with you, then I am incomplete. I am not angry with you because I am complete with me and with others. 

Why is listening so important to people?

Because listening is attention, and attention is energy! When you genuinely listen to someone, you not only boost their self worth, but also their energy levels! This is why people feel so fulfilled when someone listens to them. If you listen closely when somebody is sharing, especially if they are sharing a problem, you will see that almost always, what they are looking for is understanding and empathy, not your solutions for their problems. It is also a commonly held notion that one has to be loud and heard to be noticed and to progress in society. In fact true…

Have you taken an honest look at your relationships?

In every relationship, we are constantly trying to sculpt the other person in the way we have imagined them to be. Even without being aware of it, we continuously try to control and change and possess the other. To try to possess a living person is the ultimate disrespect you can show them! It means we are trying to convert a person into property. We degrade energy into matter. We carry an image of our ideal person inside our heads, and try to mold the other person in the same image! If we can only drop the images inside us…

A glimpse of love makes you expand more and more in love.

Take responsibility for love, that is where a relationships starts. If you fulfill others expectations and they also fulfill your expectations, then that is business, not love. Love is beyond business. Love creates life in you. A glimpse of love makes you expand more and more in love. When you take responsibility for a person with the…

Relationships are expression of your Inner state

Integrity expands your relationship at different levels. You relate with a lot of things in your life – others, wealth, business, healthy, etc. When you bring integrity, then – you will remove the ignorance that exists in all your relationships. Whenever you experience conflict in your relationships, again and again your in-authenticity presents itself to you. When you…

Listen !

Authentically listen to the cries of your heart. Your heart continue to  cry for your attention. Authentically listen,Listening does not mean  you will just do what your heart says. Even if you are ready to give your ear, after listening your heart says “it is OK you have heard me that is enough”. Many time even in your family, in your team people does not want you to solve their problem , they just want you to listen to their problem. Once you listen even if you don’t solve it is OK .

When the real relationship happens, even the stone can become God

When there is no trust even if God comes down you will ask for ID card. When the trust happens, even the stone can become God. I tell you one thing, when really the relationship happens, the other person really looks like a God. She/He will look like a God and He/She will be God. It is not looking like a God, He/She will be God. Vivekananda gives a discourse in one place, when He speaks He says “Ramakrishna is God”. Somebody asks Him, “How can you say He is a God?. You can say He is an enlightened person,…

Fear of God ?

Understand, God knows better than you know yourself. So there is no reason to fear Him or please Him. Even better than your mother or father, God knows you. He knows you not only in this birth but in all the births that you have taken until now. You are an open book in front of Him. He can refer to any page at any time! So drop your fear of God and look upon Him as a totality of Existence. Look upon Him as the ultimate friend. However hard society tries to make you afraid of God, don’t listen…

How can we learn from past experience ?

Be very clear, you will never be able to learn from past experiences. Past experience can only make you do the same things again and again. Any memory about the past experience can only make you do the same thing in a larger or smaller way, but the quality will be the same.  Be very clear, you will never be able to achieve any significant transformation or change in your personality by remembering your past. A connected, clutched mind creates more and more miseries in our personal life, professional career and relationships. It tremendously affects our creativity and economic well-being.…

Even once if you can replace your depression from your inner space, have confidence that I have replaced, I can do it again. So, if it comes back 10 times, let me do it 10 times. That’s all. 

Am I with Right Guru or Wrong Guru ?

A right guru will go on pushing you to continuously move forward. He will never give you the feeling you are done. The real peace is the explosion of the mind which asks for peace into piece, piece. What you think as real peace is tamasic tiredness, chronic fatigue. That is why when life comes in front of you, you just jump into some cave as you wanted to have a cozy cave. Even if you catch a cave, you do not understand that I am the walls of the cave. A real Master will go on be pushing you.…

Any idea you strongly remember and move your body, that idea will get engraved into your bio-memory. If you think by bending up and down, up and down 10 times, your stomach will become healthy. Just that idea I will become healthy and you moving up and down, up and down, you will become healthy. You don’t have to learn any formal yoga, exercise or anything. This is the whole science. There are so many exercises, everything is helping, how can it be. If you go to one system they say for stomach problems bend this way, if you go…

Only the best can happen or nothing happens

In the whole world there are only two kinds of people, one who feels everything is auspicious. Whatever is happening is auspicious. Other one, whatever is happening is bad, that’s all. The group which feels whatever is happening is good is too small that is why it is not able to run news channels. That is why it is not able to convince people whatever is happening is good. But the people who believe whatever is happening is bad, they are the majority and they are able to hold, take over the power and legal system. So, constantly they are…

Tapas is being intensely passionate with deep patience. It is being playfully sincere.

Once a man went to visit a famous sculptor. He saw the sculptor sitting silently in front of a big marble block, smiling admiringly at it. When he saw the visitor, he turned to him and said “Is it not she beautiful ?” “Who?” asked the bewildered visitor. “This woman, hiding in the marble block” “Where I don’t see any woman” “You will, just as soon as I finish removing all the unnecessary stuff around her” , sculptor smiled. On the spiritual path, this process of removing all the unnecessary stuff is Tapas.Tapas is the intense joyful effort that transforms…

I don’t have any visions or darshans in my spiritual path…..I feel depressed!

There are some people who to go to Bengaluru to Delhi with open window. They see so many visions, scenes and all kinds of visions and darshans and reach Delhi. There are some people whose windows are closed, they also reach Delhi. There is one danger if your window is open, you may see some middle station and think that Delhi has come and get down. But the journey itself will be very juicy. For people whose window is closed, you will not get anywhere in the middle, you will reach Delhi for sure, but journey itself will be little…

Whatever is happening is auspicious

Look into the whole journey of your life. What is after all the whole journey, somehow you have the body and mind, you need to reach the space where you can be yourself, having everything, without the need of body and mind. So every experience which is added to you is pushing you to go beyond body and mind. Even what you think as suffering is nothing but teaching you that you will be better-of without body and mind. So constantly this truth is being  taught to you. So, in that way if you see, everything, everything is adding, adding,…